Setting Your Hair Goals and Vision

Setting Your Hair Goals and Vision

26th Jul 2016

Ok, so the last article may have had some of you like, "Huh?" But hang in there with me on this. It's very important to get your mind on board and remove barriers to meeting your objectives. And in this case, it is an important part of taking limits off of your ability to grow hair. Now that you've set the stage, so to speak, it's time to talk about what you want and expect. 

“Whatever your mind can conceive and believe the mind can achieve regardless of how many times you may have failed in the past.” - Napoleon Hill

When I first started my hair growth journey, one of the things that was most important for me was to be able to set a goal for myself and have an idea of what that goal would look like for me. I was on some popular hair boards and I noticed that people grouped themselves by the hair length goals that they’d set for themselves. “Is it as easy as deciding how long I’d want my hair and then going for it?”, I wondered. There I was, hanging out at shoulder length and noticing that there were ladies in waist length groups, who seemed to be fully expecting to grow to waist length. I wasn’t greedy. All I wanted was midback length hair and my goal would be complete. So, I joined the MBL group and lurked on the Waist Length group because I wanted to see what they were doing to get magical, fairy length hair. Waist Length was too much to hope for, wasn't it? But, listening to the waist length ladies had me feeling like, yeah. Waist length would be LOVELY...So, I changed my goal to waist length.

In these groups, I spoke openly of reaching my goal because I hadn’t heard anything that would suggest that I couldn’t. But, I did have a problem. My hair had never been much beyond shoulder length so, what would waist length even look like on me. I had to know. I had to “see and declare the end (result) from the beginning” (Isa. 46:10). In order to believe for my end result, I had to see it. You see, when you’re believing for something, when you’ve loaded your heart with your desires, you must know exactly what it is you want. No vague ambiguity brings exactly what you seek. So, I had to “write the vision and make it plain” (Habakkuk 2:2).

Let me just side note for a sec. I often will add biblical references to my comments whenever I’m talking about things like faith. I’m clearly a Christian but, the principles shared stand in every faith. But, so that no one is able to say that I’m off in some “other word”, or miss what I’m trying to share because you question the basis of what I’m saying, I make these references for your own edification. I think it’s vitally important that you guard your heart and mind and test the spirit in all things. That said, if you are not Christian, please don’t be offended. These are Universal principles. I just happen to believe that the Creator of the Universe and all of its Universal laws is God. Now, where was I? Oh yes!

“write the vision and make it plain" - God. (Habbakuk 2:2)

There are many ways to communicate with our minds. A very powerful way is through our vision. The saying, seeing is believing is right on the mark. I knew that I had to get a vision of what my hair goal would look like. So, I decided to do a Vision Board. I clipped pictures of ladies with long hair and affixed them to my vision board. But, to make it more believable to my doubting mind, I’d print out smiling pics of myself, cut the faces out and glue them on top of the faces of the long-haired ladies on my vision board. And, I’d have a ball doing it. I was sending a clear message to my mind that this long-haired lady was me.

But I didn’t stop there. I wanted a clear picture of my length goal so, I printed out a rear-facing picture of myself (an earlier length check pic). Now, I’m not photoshop expert. In fact, I’m probably as low-tech as you can get with photo altering so, I printed out the picture in black and white on my printer. Then I took a black marker and manually extended the length of my hair to what I wanted at the end of the year, waist length. (Hey. At a distance, it looked believable enough) And, knowing the power of words, I added descriptive words that I would see whenever I looked at the picture. I wrote “Long, strong, thick, healthy hair”.

The image below shows the vision picture that I made for myself in January 2010 and also the actual picture of my hair at the end of December 2010. I got what I declared repeatedly throughout the year, even tho some nay-sayed me and thought I was crazy. I saw it and believed it as doable, and so it was.

(Uh, you see those developing back fat lines in the pic on the left? My towel is there to cover them in the pic on the right. smh. #vanity lol)

Now, getting to waist length from the shoulder length was a big jump for my mind to believe. I had NEVER been anything more than barely scraping armpit length in my ENTIRE LIFE!! So, I had to “chunk” it.

"When eating an elephant take one bite at a time." - Creighton Abrams

What I could safely believe for was an inch a month. So, I decided to do a monthly vision update, starting with the goal for next month. So, I took my rear-facing picture and manually extended the length about an inch (or at least what I thought an additional inch would look like). I displayed this picture on the wall over my bath so that when I was relaxing in my nightly bath, it was directly across from me. I would smile and begin my work of believing that THAT was my current length - NOT MY EXPECTED LENGTH.

It’s important to see the END result from the beginning. So, I njoyed my added length and thanked God, in my private time, for it. I imagined how I would feel swinging that hair around and would close my eyes and actually feel it. What I was doing was loading my heart with my desire (Ps. 37:4). And I would hold that thought, that feeling and that belief IN JOY (njoy. Get it?) while I’m luxuriating in my bath. Hey, it doesn’t have to be a bath for you but, as a mom, this is my own personal time of uninterrupted relaxation. This is sacred time that I connect with the Source of my faith and communicate my gratitude of all that I have. And the picture also represents what I ALREADY have, even though it hasn’t shown up yet. Make sense? I am literally calling those things that be not as though they are. (Romans 4:7)

And, at the end of the month, I extend that vision an additional inch and repeat. I started envisioning my growth in February of that year and received a total of 10.5 inches of growth for the year. I'm completely convinced that I could've gotten 12 inches had I started expecting it from January 1st. My hair grew to the exact length that I was expecting. And here’s the kicker. I didn’t even realize how accurate it was until I did my year end reveal pic! I believed it would happen but uh… to have it exactly?! HA!! God is good! 

So, what's next?

You already know! It's time to write your own vision and set growth goals for your hair. Just the very act of participating in this exercise will set your intentions for your hair growth.

In this 4th quarter series, you'll set your goals to reach the end of this year. But, you'll also want to set your overall, long-term hair goal. This can be more than just length. If your goal is to go natural, then your goal pictures should reflect that. Ok? So let's get going.

Let's Do it!

1. See the end from the beginning - Get a clear idea of your ultimate hair goal. If you are ear length and you want hip length hair, stop doubt and start setting your sights on hip length. Don't know what you want? Start browsing through images of ladies with different length hair. The more you look, the more you'll be drawn to a certain length. Once you find yourself being drawn or more inclined towards a certain length, start collecting pictures of women, visually similar to you, with that length or style of hair. Remember, you're going to see yourself in these women so, to make it more believable, find someone with a similar skin tone, for instance (although not absolutely necessary). She can be fit, if fitness is your goal. She can be in a new car, if having a new car is one of your goals. Just choose images that you can change into an image of you by replacing the face. (side note: be sure that your face used is happy and smiling) If you cannot replace the face, and the person doesn't resemble you, cover the face with words. I used a heart with the words "I love my hair" or "thank you".

2. Set a Master Plan - Take a rear-facing picture of yourself with your hair out or in a low ponytail. Use editing software to visually extend your hair to a length that you ultimately want your hair to grow. This is your long-term goal. If you have no editing skills, like me, print out your picture and manually draw your ultimate goal length on the picture. I find that using a black marker or crayon works better than a pencil, which will not look as dark as your print out.

Remember to feel good about what you are doing. Don't judge yourself and don't let others judge you either. Nay-sayers can steal your hopes and dreams so, keep this private until you start recognizing results enough that you can defend your own belief.

3. Chunk that elephant - Now that you have a vision for where you're going, you'll need to set mini-goals that your mind can accept, to get there. For me, an inch a month was a reasonable expectation. Decide for yourself what your mind can reasonably believe (with some ongoing convincing) and edit another copy of your rear-facing picture to include your first mini, or short term, goal.

4. Display your images where you can privately give focused attention and appreciation. Spend at least 20 minutes daily meditating on these things. (Phil 4:8-23) You are loading your heart and also convincing your mind that you already have the new length. Your thoughts may turn to doubt and/or ridicule with the purpose of "keeping it real" (the mind does not easily accept change without a challenge). When this happens. Say outloud "Stop!" And take that moment to choose a new thought in line with what you are choosing to believe is true. Whenever I find it difficult, I stop and say "Lord, help my unbelief". (Mark 9:24)

5. Let know know how you feel about envisioning your progress and, if you choose, show off the pictures that you're using and upload in your journal.  Oh, and of course, if you don't mind sharing, post in the 90-day Super Hair Growth Challenge facebook group. You can also access the Discussion Group through your online hair journal. We'll continue using this practice throughout the remainder of the Challenge. If you'd like to envision what your hair will look like at the end of this year, use your monthly goals to estimate where you'll be. It will be fun to compare your year-end picture to your envisioned year-end picture like I did. This will greatly increase your faith and keep you motivated to continue.

Oh, and don't forget to let me know your thoughts on this article.

Let's grow some hair!